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Before You Begin Your Affair

The majority of affairs end in disaster because someone gets caught. Either member of the cheating couple can be caught and it will likely effect both of you since the wronged spouses aren’t likely to keep quiet. That’s why it is of the utmost importance for you to plan ahead (although this article applies even if you’ve already started an affair and want to be more careful). There are a few mistakes most cheating men and women make and those mistakes are generally what gets them caught and you’ll read about them in this article along with tips for how to avoid them. Let’s get started!

There is often a great deal of guilt associated with an affair, which is why the men and women having them tend not to make plans or work hard not to get caught. If you’re planning it means you’re thinking ahead, which makes your affair premeditated, which in turns makes it a little worse in the guilt department. The mental logic makes some sense but if you’re reading this article then we both know that you want to have an affair because your sex life just isn’t doing it for you anymore. You probably don’t want to give up your marriage/family/money though, and there’s nothing wrong with that. An affair can be utterly harmless and can even invigorate you and your marriage. If the affair is discovered you will likely lose everything though (many spouses can forgive a bad mistake on one night but an ongoing sexual affair is usually grounds for divorce) so you need to make a plan and stick to it.

There’s a certain kind of person that wants a divorce but is too cowardly to ask for one so they sloppily have an affair with the subconscious desire to get caught so they don’t have to choose to end the marriage. It can be difficult to know if you’re that person but if you are this guide is most definitely not for you (if you’re that man or woman then simply step up and address the fact that you want out of your marriage). This guide is written for married people that are sick of the lack of sex in their lives but wish to maintain the marriage and can’t see a way to get the sex they want with their spouse. It’s for men and women that want to have great sex in an affair and keep their marriage together. If you don’t have a plan and follow it then you’re almost guaranteed to get caught.

Having an affair with someone you already know or someone you see all the time (think work colleague, someone at the gym, etc) is a great way to get caught. You need to do your best to ensure that your partner has no interest in love or a major commitment. That’s why you need to use the internet and the many sites that have been well-crafted to ensure your success at having a no strings attached affair. That’s why you’re here, of course.

Your goal with regards to your spouse when having an affair is to prevent him/her from getting suspicious. Once those seeds of suspicion are planted it only takes a little evidence to help them blossom into full blown paranoia and once that happens your sunk since your spouse will become the greatest detective ever in the quest to discover what you’re doing and if the suspicions are warranted. You should take every precaution to prevent paranoia and you should always have an excuse at the ready in case your spouse discovers a piece of damning evidence.

Here are the four major mistakes people make when having an affair:

They get sloppy and don’t clear their computer’s history, thereby leaving evidence of adult dating sites, etc.

They leave evidence on the cell phone. This includes text messages to and from the cheating partner, far too many calls to the same number, and the monthly cell phone bill with numbers recorded.

They use their credit cards to pay for hotel rooms, dinners, flowers, etc. If your spouse has any knowledge of household finances and checks accounts this one is a guarantee of suspicion.

They leave emails with their cheating partner on their computer/in their online account and the spouse reads them.

Here’s how you can combat those four mistakes:

Use Google Chrome as your browser and make use of their incognito feature, which allows you to browse without any record of it being kept. No history is recorded, cookies are banished (cookies are placed on your computer by the sites you visit), nothing is put in the cache, etc. Any browser will let you clear your history simply (a quick Google search will show you how if you don’t know) but the incognito browsing feature is perfect because the rest of your history is kept and only the parts you want to hide will be hidden. An empty history can be suspicious too (can you hear your spouse asking why you would need to clear your history?).

Get a prepaid cell phone. You can buy them almost anywhere, although convenience stores are typically the easiest. They tend to have call and text features and they’re untraceable. Once you have the prepaid phone you only need to make sure your spouse doesn’t discover it.

Get a prepaid debit card and start carrying cash and you’ll avoid the trouble of your spouse tracking your activities via the credit card bill. A prepaid debit card will still be tied to you in some way but there’s no reason your spouse will have to find out about it. Plus, you should carry more cash and pay for anything you can with it.

You need a brand new email account and you should only check it when you’re using the incognito feature of the Chrome browser or you’re going to delete the history right away. Also make sure whatever login you use doesn’t drop down in the form box after you first type it in. You want no evidence of that email address existing anywhere on your computers or phone.

If you resolve to plan before having an affair, use a website to make a connection with someone else looking to have an affair, and avoid the four common mistakes listed above you are nearly guaranteed to make a successful connection and have a pleasing sexual affair with the man or woman of your dreams.

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