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How to ask someone for a no strings attached relationship

There are many ways to get a no strings attached partner. It all starts with a flirty glance and a naughty conversation where you hint at this sexy someone that you like them, and yet make it clear that you don’t want to date them.

After all, if you just tell someone that you like them, they’d assume you want a serious relationship.

So if you’re looking for a naughty fling thing, just make these three things clear *subtly* while talking to them. One, you’ve had your share of relationships and are just looking for some fun right now. Two, you’re single. And three, you find them very attractive and sexy.

Use the same order when you’re trying to send the message across. Making it clear that you aren’t interested in a relationship first makes it seem like it’s your lifestyle choice for the moment. But if you tell someone that you find them attractive, and then tell them that you’re just looking for fun, it would appear like you’re making a proposition for free sex!

Just let the person know you find them attractive. You’ve already made it clear that you’re looking for a no strings fling thing because you’ve mentioned that before flirting with them. And when you do start flirting with them, they’d start flirting back with you if they like the idea of having a no strings attached relationship with you. [Read: 13 lusty signs of sexual attraction that could lead to NSA sex]

When is it a good time to end a no strings attached relationship?

Once you find yourself in this arrangement, you need to ask yourself if you’re happy to have this arrangement with one or more people. If you are, well, then that’s great for you. But when a no strings attached relationship starts to take too much importance in your mind, or if it starts to make you feel unhappy, you’re probably falling for this person and you need to either back away or confess your intentions.

On the other hand, if you meet someone you really like while sleeping with your no strings attached buddy, and you hit it off in a more-than-just-friends kind of way with this new person and both of you decide to get serious with each other, it’s probably best for you to end the no strings attached relationship with your friend and move on to something a lot more serious and meaningful.

All it takes is some discretion, a bit of panache and a clear mind that won’t get love and lust mixed up in the head!

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